Advice for a Teen -- Comeback: To Sixteen

This past weekend we hosted my 16-year-old cousin, who was visiting from Chicago. And shortly before we put him back on the plane, we sat down and basically started offering advice for a teen — things that we wish that we would have known when we were 16 years old.

Think about it. If we knew then what we know now, life would’ve been so much easier, right?

So I just want to share a few of those thoughts with you, because I think it’s important. I’d like you to share with me as well.

Kids Can Be Cruel — So Can Adults

One of the biggest things was kids can be cruel, but adults can be crueler with more power.

It’s probably best for you to get okay with the idea that people aren’t always going to like you. People aren’t always going to be kind to you. And if you can learn and get comfortable with that as a 16-year-old, you are going to absolutely hit it out of the park when it comes to a-holes in your adult life.

The other thing, kind of along those same lines, is people will have a tendency to try to make you believe that your strengths are your weaknesses.

They’ll tease you about things that you’re good at. They’ll make you feel uncomfortable about characteristics in you that kind of make you a little different. They’ll try to make you believe that the things that are probably going to make you stand out and make you succeed the most in life are actually weaknesses.

That’s their way of attempting to succeed.

So don’t believe every bad thing that’s said about you or to you is actually a weakness, because it’s not. And finally if you have a goal or a dream, and you achieve it, start right away coming up with your next big thing. Don’t just sit there and let it wait out, as if you’re supposed to live the rest of your days in this dream or in this goal, because standing still is when you start to lose.

Don’t be stagnant. If you believe you’ve achieved all of your goals, that means that you just didn’t set your goals big enough.

So Comeback kids, I want to hear from you. I want to hear from the Comeback community. Let me know about advice that you would give to your 16-year-old self. What do you think would’ve led a greater path for success had you known at 16? Share that with me using the #ComebackWithEricaCobb.

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