Comeback to Personal Accountability
Welcome to Comeback with Erica Cobb. I just want to thank you for all the love and support and birthday wishes that you guys gave me this week.
Friday was my 39th birthday and it really made me think about what I’m going to do this year to create a better version of myself for next year.
And so today I want to talk about coming back to personal accountability. And the reason why this has been such a prevalent thing in my life is because we all have disappointments. We all have failures and I am no different.
And what we tend to do to kind of absolve ourselves of the situation or make ourselves feel a little better about it is place the blame on someone or something else or retract from it. And I realized that I had began to do that.
And what was happening is I’m putting responsibility on other people and other things, which was really daunting for me because when you make someone else responsible for something, then you have to wait for them to fix it.
And I got news. If people were in the business of fixing lives, then they would start with their own, which would put you at the very best second.
So you have to wait for them to fix their lives and then come back and fix what’s happened in your life.
Because yes, there are disappointments. Yes there are failures, but there are beautiful learning lessons in them and it’s something that’s uniquely your own.
So when I really came to this realization, it was about four months ago and I was very candid on Daily Blast Live saying that I was looking for a black female therapist in Denver and I was having difficulty finding one.
Well I found her. And she has been great. And what I realized was last year the improvements made were the fact that I was identifying that I was sitting in the backseat of the car when I should have been in the drivers seat and I was allowing all of this energy around me to drive this vehicle that is my life.
And before I slammed into a wall and created a fatality for my life, I needed to hop in the driver’s seat and take control. And taking control for me is coming back to personal responsibility.
Because if you’re the passenger, you aren’t culpable. You aren’t responsible for what’s happening.
And I’m so grateful that I found a therapist who could really help me articulate what I was feeling and then put those feelings into actions because I think it’s quite safe to be in your life vehicle and sit back and be like, I’m just a passenger. I’m not responsible for what happens to this car. I’m not paying the insurance. I don’t have to navigate. I can sit back here and just watch everything happen as it goes.
But the issue, it’s your life andyou’re responsible for where it goes. You’ll always be responsible for that. So for those of you who might be sitting in the backseat of your car and you’re thinking, maybe it’s time that I jumped into the driver’s seat, I would implore you to do that immediately.
It’s just so important and I can understand the fear and hesitancy that a lot of people have about beingtheir own driver in their own life’s vehicle.
But you don’t have a choice and you want to make that decision before the crash, not after the crash, because the crash is inevitable. So this week and this year, and probably for the rest of my life, I am going to be thinking about coming back to personal responsibility.
And if that’s something that you’re struggling with too, I encourage you to think about it too. I’m going to be talking about this more in the future on my podcast.
That’s right, my podcast! Comeback with Erica Cobb will come to podcasts on March 1st. There are some teasers out there now, so I really thank you all for being so encouraging for me to do this. It was really in my heart and my spirit and I am so excited to continue to connect with you.
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