Is Conformity Self Sabotage?

Hey all, it’s Erica Cobb and welcome back to Comeback with Erica Cobb.

Okay, so what a week this has been! For those of you who have been following me on social media, I got to testify in the Colorado state Capitol for a bill that’s been proposed by representative Leslie Herod.

Shout out to her — the woman is bad, check her out — but it would ensure that race trait hairstyles are protected under the antidiscrimination code.

For those of you who aren’t in the state of Colorado, you may have heard of the crown act, which is the umbrella of making sure that we are not being discriminated against based on our hairstyles. So I was super honored to be able to be at the Capitol and let my voice be heard.

And it made me think about conformity because we never think about conformity in terms of self-sabotage, but it truly is.

So we are often told to conform, and I’m sure that you can think of situations in your life. For me it’s you need to look a certain way in order to be accepted. For you, it might be you need to act a certain way in order to be accepted.

And we never question what these templates of acceptance are. And I think it’s about time that we start questioning these things.

Because generally a template is formed by one person’s model of the way things should be. So if we are conforming in order to be like someone else, then aren’t we already starting at a disadvantage because theoretically that person already has a headstart in the game because they’ve already got the whole template down? 

So I think about when I was younger and you know, messages that I would get from friends or just in the world from media telling me that I need to be this way.

Maybe it’s the way your body should look, the way your skin tone should be, maybe the way your hair should look, whatever it is.

That seems like self sabotage to me, but we all kind of buy into it, don’t we? I mean, we want to feel like we’re a part of something and a lot of times that means not sticking out.

So we choose to conform.

So I’m going to call BS on the whole idea of conformity. I think conformity has been 100% the man’s way. (I just had to get the man into you trying to be less of you in order to compete!)

It’s away of making you agree to have some type of handicap, and that’s not right. No one is going to beat you at being 100% yourself.

So when someone asks you or tells you to be something that you aren’t or do something that’s against your spirit, I want you think this feels like sabotage because it truly is.

No one is going to compete with you better than you. Okay? That’s my word today.

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